tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7102626510050210252.post6078831193056862432..comments2020-10-15T02:28:57.648-07:00Comments on Give Me a Nap: My evolving relationship with autismjmbhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17068706972371471843noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7102626510050210252.post-33226035749354208422013-03-08T10:29:49.680-08:002013-03-08T10:29:49.680-08:00Yup! I wish I could just download/zap your column...Yup! I wish I could just download/zap your column into some people's brains. Like my in-laws (!), but we all have our own journeys to go on. . . <br />I think of my son's autism in these terms.<br />1) There are a multitude of outcomes that are possible for this journey. I don't get a crystal ball to let me know what my child's future is going to be. No one does, although a lot of people like to think they do ;-)<br />2) I do not let myself get attached to any one outcome, nor do I place judgments on any possible outcomes. This can be hard b/c society places judgments on outcomes, but I don't have to let what society impact how I think about my boy. <br />3) I remind myself that today, this moment, is more important than any future outcome. Take things moment by moment, not even day by day. Moment by moment.<br />4) There will be good and bad moments (b/c I chose not to think of terms of good and bad days. that way a bad day can always turn around ;-)) Savor the good, try to learn from the bad or just let them go. Then at the END of the day, try to focus on something good that happened. Even if it was only one thing. Even if it is the same thing as yesterday. Just pick something positive to end your day on.<br /><br />It's not always easy and I certainly don't feel like I've got life all figured out or I always make the absolute best choice (no one does!), but I do feel like I'm in reasonably good place right now when it comes to accepting my son's autism. <br />Truthfully, I feel dealing with other people and their lack of acceptance/understanding of autism is much harder than dealing with my son's autism itself. Although I feel like people on the outside looking in have a hard time understanding that ;-)Jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15364220221782320521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7102626510050210252.post-64084170886605866592013-03-07T05:43:57.620-08:002013-03-07T05:43:57.620-08:00Jenny, Congratulations on your journey and welcome...Jenny, Congratulations on your journey and welcome to the exclusive club of parents of AMAZING people! I read all the emotions you're going through, and remember them well - so I ask if you could read this post to about those fears and emotions: "Will My Child Miss Out?" http://www.huffingtonpost.com/brenda-rothman/parenting-and-disabilities_b_2807620.html<br /><br />Wonderful to meet you.Brenda Rothman (Mama Be Good)https://www.blogger.com/profile/17399227210081662280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7102626510050210252.post-31336741988450510632013-03-06T22:07:24.799-08:002013-03-06T22:07:24.799-08:00Jenny, this is the first time I've visited you...Jenny, this is the first time I've visited your site and I'm so glad I did! I love this perspective of acceptance that you're developing around your son's diagnosis.<br /><br />My son is 22 and was diagnosed with Aspergers and Tourettes. It is difficult to imagine him any different than he is. Sure, I'd love for him to not be so anxious, and to feel more comfortable socially, but he is also intelligent, witty, imaginative, musical, and downright amazing, quirks and all! <br /><br />Thank you for sharing your wisdom in such a beautiful way!<br /><br />Hugs!<br /><br />Pam<br />http://insightlifecoaching.co<br />http://spunsoft.wordpress.comMurmurationshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17132073229925342029noreply@blogger.com